Outside the Box

What is considered the box by society entraps most people to the idea of what others think the box is and unless this can be seen to go beyond it, there will just be blind acceptance of someone else’s idea of the box.

Stepping outside of what is considered the box as far as thinking goes is a must if one is to go beyond the trap of the considered box. You may ask why would a person want to go beyond what’s considered the box, here’s why: the so called box is based in form and to be attached to form causes suffering. It’s as simple as that, with the normal attachment to the senses (the box of form), life will still occur, it just won’t be experienced as fully as it can be. There will still be experiences, how can there not be with one being alive, but they will be dictated by form and there’ll be much boxed nonsense associated with them. Societies box entraps one to what others think is considered normal and unless one can see this to go beyond it, there will be blind acceptance of someone else’s idea as your own. It’s an easy trap to get caught in because the bait is so enticing.

This plays right into the reward system that is considered part of societies box. Not too many people do anything that doesn’t have the reward of pleasure associated with it. This can be applied to just about anybody and anything. When was the last time you purposely did something that you knew was going to be unpleasant or without some kind of reward attached to it? This is pivotal in understanding the process of the Conditioned Mind. Until you can just be with whatever arises, without judging it or associating it with pleasure, the box of what society considers normal will be what dictates the life you’re living, and unfortunately it will probably be someone else’s idea of what is considered the box.

No More Questions

The Conditioned Mind makes you believe answers are needed to exist, but answers aren’t truly needed; the questioning will only be eliminated when there’s the simple acceptance of what’s happening right now.

Although the mind always wants answers, sometimes the answers gotten aren’t the ones wanted, and sometimes one doesn’t even get an answer, but the problem doesn’t lie in the lack of answers, it lies in the mind becoming agitated and creating unnecessary questions. When things occur and one’s conditioning creates questions, it’s because makes one thinks they need answers. at his makes it very difficult for what’s occurring right now to be accepted. This is the cause for most of one’s discontentment, and if what’s occurring right now isn’t accepted, it makes for a very agitated mind. The real kicker to this is it’s your own mind creating this nonsense.

Life isn’t something to be figured out, actually the more you think you have it figured out, the less it’s known what’s going on. It’s the Conditioned Mind that wants to put life in a box, but the moment this is done existence becomes limited. This occurs because a limit is put on a mind that doesn’t truly have a limit. Understand this self created limit is because of one’s conditioning not the mind itself. The mind is limitless, it’s a product of the Universe, which is also limitless. Our mind can be understood to a certain degree, but the limitless of it cannot so instead of making up answers, be in the moment of what’s actually occurring right now and allow this to be your answer. When this is done there won’t be a need for questions because wanting answers will be eliminated.

A Directed Dilemma

The Conditioned Mind is a human dilemma because it leads most in the direction of greed, hate, and delusion. If you can see this in yourself you will not have to look any further because you’ll understand you are already free…


You can only change your own conditioning, and that will only happen if you’re fortunate enough to be aware of this. What happens when it’s realized how every thought is that of the Conditioned Mind is you stop trying to change how the world is and instead you understand how to accept the world as it is because you know you can only change yourself. This will not change the Conditioned Mind of those immersed in greed, hate, and delusion, but it will change you. It is only the workings of a Conditioned Mind that needs things different, even if it knows things can’t be changed.


Who knows if the world will change before humanity destroys it, but it’s only through the Conditioned Mind that this is happening anyway. Maybe it’s suppose to be this way, maybe not, but a person can only change themselves and that will only happen when there’s enough awareness to realize how conditioned you really are. Look at the smugness of your own conditioning before you point the finger at someone else. After all when you point one finger at another there are three pointing back at you, so simply take the log out of your own eye before you point out the speck in someone else’s eye. The way we are conditioned as a species is our dilemma, this is a stark fact and until this changes nothing will change. But fret not because if you come to realize this you will understand “It’s Monday Only in Your Mind: You Are Not Your Thoughts” and when you do you will see just how conditioned you really are. It will be then that you will have the possibility of awakening and seeing the light, not a conditioned light, but a light provided by simply looking within.

Distracted Thoughts

There’s not much a person can do about the first thought that pops up, but with practice discipline can be developed to watch the distracted thoughts as they arise and are attached to…


There are as many different views of life as there are people in the world and no one view is inherently right or wrong. We each have a unique way of perceiving and interpreting life and the base of what is perceived and interpreted is where our differences come from. This is where we create our delusional separation from each other and this is when conflicts arise, but the conflict isn’t with others, it’s with our own thoughts. If we all viewed life from the same base of love, it would be the base of our existence and there would never a conflict with anyone including ourselves. Our true essence is Universally based in love, but then comes each individual’s perception and interpretation. This is where the break down occurs because the mind isn’t disciplined to watch our distracted thoughts. Our thinking is totally distracted trying to satisfy pleasures and desires that are created by an undisciplined mind. Our distracted thoughts are the greatest block to loving ourselves and all beings.


Distracted thoughts are why we become are our own worst enemy. If all we had were thoughts based in love, conflicts with ourselves would be non existent and if we had no conflict with ourselves we wouldn’t have any conflict with others. No one can harm you as much as your own distracted thoughts, but when the mind quiets and settles there’s awareness of this. Once a person becomes aware of their distracted thoughts, they can stop being their own worst enemy. They can then begin to think of loving themselves the way the Universe intended, and in the process have thoughts that are based in loving all beings…

Understanding the Lies

Lies created by the Conditioned Mind can’t be fixed with the same conditioning. It’s not that truth has to be known to change this, but the conditioning will have to be understood if the lies are to cease being created…


It’s very difficult to know truth because of the Conditioned Mind creating so many different definitions of it. Instead of trying to prove what truth is, begin to notice where the lies come from. A lie is something that has no real facts to it. Perceptions aren’t factual, they’re made up by the conditioning of the perceiver to suit some belief. People ask me if I believe in God, my answer is, I have come to see how beliefs are only a made up story, attached to something that you hope will make life the way you think it should be. These stories don’t enhance life, they actually take away from it. For me I stick to what I know is factual and how it relates to my experience. I don’t see the benefit in making up a story (attaching to a belief) about something to suit a conditioned mind made up lie.


The biggest lie in place is that the things of the world will satisfy you, this lie is reinforced everyday. It’s an untruth which is at the core of our entire misaligned society. It creates all our issues as a society. Religious sects all claim to have the truth, no facts, just their truth. Politicians try to fix problems based in the same conditioned lies that creates them. The entire entertainment and sports industry are based in lies that create the false impression of the haves and have nots, which creates separation in our society not unity. There’s also the lie of social and career status. There’s no truth in any of these, there’s only perception. Lie after lie after lie, and what happens to a society when lies are its base is it becomes a society of liars. Not because we want to, and not because we can’t know the truth, but simple because we don’t understand the conditioning in place that creates the lies.

Surface Conditioning

As long as there’s conditioning in place, this will dictate the energy of your life. This energy arises and results in as what’s on the surface, but it doesn’t allow you to see what’s truly going on.

How things appear on the surface isn’t how they actually are. If one truly wants to see what’s going on, going beyond what is seen on the surface will have to happen. If two people are looking at same thing there are usually two different opinions of what is seen, and than there’s what’s going on beyond the surface; this is truth. There’s three sides to every story, my side, your side and the truth. To stop seeing what’s on the surface one only needs to stop creating the story of what is seen. Stopping the story process allows the mind to slow to a point where space opens up. It’s imperative for this to happen if the conditioning that’s been formed over the years is to lessen its grip.

The Conditioned Mind is so misunderstood. I look to my own reactions to know this and in the process I can see it in others. This isn’t a story, it’s a fact. Know your own conditioning and you will know the conditioning of others. This is because we are all of the same energy. Creation is simply creation and needs no story. When the conditioning is seen for what it is, its energy begins to transform to allow liberation. As long as there’s conditioning in place, this will dictate the energy of your life. This energy arises and results in as what’s on the surface. It doesn’t allow you to see what’s truly going on, and until you do what’s on the surface will be the only thing seen.

Life...Not About Me

Me energy can’t get out of its own way. For the next step in the evolution process to occur, me energy has to be let go. A true transformation can only occur by me energy being absent in one’s daily existence.

The more the energy of me is in control, the more life seems to be a struggle. This doesn’t mean one should go around making life about others because in my experience that’s still the energy of me. Not easy to see this, but as long as one has to do something, me energy is in place. Not attaching to me energy may be the most difficult part of the awakening process at least it is for me…lol. This is mostly because of how me constantly gets reinforced. Most people develop a mindset that has me as the center of the Universe, this is not easy to break free of because me energy begins as an infant and just gets deeper into the subconscious as one gets older. This is one of the true blocks to awakening and it’s why so few do.

Me energy can’t get out of its own way. This is why most people remain as they are and don’t change. I don’t mean superficial change like not doing something any longer, I mean a deep inner change that happens because the Universe does it. No one can change themselves, but you can put yourself in alignment to change. This happens constantly change, but it’s mostly done as a detriment to ones own well being because it comes from me energy. Thinking you know what life is about, but still using worldly satisfaction to me means something is still being missed. For the next step in the evolution process to occur, me energy has to be let go. A true transformation can only occur by me energy being absent in one’s daily existence. This doesn’t mean you won’t exist, it just means me energy isn’t attached to and it is then that life can be about something other than me…

Creating Space Allows Grace

Grace is the difference between being happy, joyous, and free or being stuck in a mundane existence, and if space isn’t created to allow grace to arise, mundane life will be…


If you want to truly experience all that life has to offer you will have to create some space to allow grace to manifest in your life. This creating space is like putting an addition on your house. Let’s say you have a family of four and you only have a two bedroom home. You can live there the way that it is, cramped and confined, or you can put an addition on it and create more space which will make the living so much more comfortable and so much more beneficial for everyone involved. Not putting on an addition (not creating space) is how it is with the noise in our ahead. The noise controls and limits and it keeps one cramped and confined as it goes round and round, that is until there’s space created that allows grace to enter your life.


The noise in the head will not allow you the grace that’s needed to truly live your life and it will not allow the space that allows grace to be your focused energy. Grace is not something that you can make happen, it’s not something you can study, it’s something that occurs when the space is created so it can arise. The space of grace is what happens when you stop trying to manipulate life to make it how you think it should be. You were born by grace all without one iota of assistance from you. Grace is the difference between being happy, joyous, and free or being stuck in a mundane existence, and if space isn’t created to allow grace to arise, mundane life will be…

Finding Your Anchor

Look down at your feet, regardless of where they’re planted this is your anchor. If it isn’t it’s because the need to reach for something else is blocking you from being anchored in the present moment…

When all of a sudden you’r not at peace, it’s because something has taken you from it. Remembering to look down at my feet reminds me if I’m not at peace it’s because I’m no longer anchored in the moment. For years I was constantly searching for this anchor and expect for brief moments it eluded me for most of my life. This was because my anchor was always contingent on something that was outside of myself and whatever its form, it was always an anchor based in what I thought I needed to provide myself comfort. There’s no need to list what these anchors were because there are so many, they’re all the things one reaches for. These anchors come in many forms and unless one truly takes a step back to see this the reaching will always be there, but finding your true anchor will never happen.

The lies of the Conditioned Mind will dictate what you will use as an anchor and until this conditioning is identified, one’s anchor will continue to be sought and never be found. The only way this will change is by going inward to discover why there’s a need to reach for something, once this is revealed, therein lies your anchor. Your anchor isn’t from the thought realm though, it comes from the stillness within that tells you it doesn’t matter where you are or what’s happening, all you have to do is look down at your feet. If you need any other anchor it’s because the need to reach is still in place and it’s blocking you from finding the anchor to the present moment.

Selfish Attachments

Awareness is key in breaking free from the hold of the attachments of the Conditioned Mind, and the only reason the hold is even so is because of the selfish nature that’s at the core of these attachments.

The mind would never become agitated if one didn’t attach to the present moment needing to be different and what is needed different is decided by your own mind looking for something that’s going to provide you with pleasure. This is where awareness to what one is attached to helps, without this awareness the agitation is never seen, and one simply succumbs to it because they have to. There’s no choice in this without awareness and even then the attachment is so powerful it most likely will not be let go of. Awareness of what one is attached to is key in breaking free from the hold of the Conditioned Mind, and the only reason the hold is so is because of the selfish nature of what’s at the core of these attachments. It’s the reason why one needs something different and reaches for money, greed, porn, gambling, drugs, alcohol, programs, and even God to name just a few of the things that are attached to.

When using the body for present moment awareness the attachments aren’t as powerful and although they will still be there because you’re human, they won’t have as much control over you as they do now. You can say the mind agitations aren’t in control of you, but just by saying that they are; this is because if the mind wasn’t agitated, there wouldn’t be any response. This is how you can tell if the mind is agitated, it will respond to things without giving it much thought. When the mind isn’t agitated, there will be space between what arises and the response to it. The space is the result of developing discipline and fully being in the present moment. Without this discipline one will remain a slave to their mind agitations and be selfishly attached to things that don’t allow the space to be free.

Just Watch

Just watch as each situation arises in your life and you’ll be the recipient of a peace that passes all understanding. Or not and stay a prisoner to the judging and labeling process of the Conditioned Mind…

There are two ways to live life, one is from the perception that we are directly involved in everything that happens. This requires that we make constant judgements as each situation occurs; we instantaneously label things as they happen. This is what makes life personal. This is the way most people have been conditioned, so this is the only way one can be lived. The other way that life can be lived, but this must be learned, is to just watch what happens. This is much different because you don’t get pulled into what happens. You’re a participant because you’re alive, but you learn not to judge and label what happens. If you are in traffic, you watch the label arise, but that’s all you do. You acknowledge the fact that there’s traffic and that’s it. You don’t have to take it any further because it doesn’t add anything to the situation. In this case you’re in traffic, but by just watching being in traffic instead of making it about you, there’s a freedom that’s not there when the situation is judged and labeled instead of just being watched.

Just think of the many scenario’s that this can be directly applied to and see how differently each situation affects you when it’s watched instead of being judged and labeled. It’s amazing how much more peace there is in your life when it’s simply watched. Don’t take my word for this, see the difference for yourself as you learn to watch what happens in life instead of being pulled into it. The situations that occur don’t change, just the way it affects you does. Become the watcher and be the recipient of peace, or not and remain a prisoner to the judging and labeling process that keeps you in bondage to the judging and labeling process of the Conditioned Mind.

Mind Agitated Lies

Truth will make a person look inward and as they do all sorts of things will arise, and because of this inward view the mind becomes agitated and a lie is created to avoid the truth…

Most people unconsciously live a life consumed by a lie more so than one of truth. They believe they’re living by truth, but upon further investigation this fallacy is uncovered. On the outside one is totally consumed by the lie which keeps a person locked into it, but this is only because of one’s own conditioning that locks you in. Truth will make a person look inward and as they do all sorts of things will arise, and because of this the mind becomes agitated and a lie is created to avoid the truth. Becoming aware of the lies so truth can be revealed is essential in the process of understanding yourself. Sit with the assumption that you will sit in stillness and watch how little stillness there is or just sit and be with whatever is there, that’s the truth of stillness. When the mind doesn’t have to push anything away or pull anything in, it is still.

Only agitated energy causes the mind to create a lie, but being with the agitation allows the mind settled. This doesn’t mean you don’t make changes, but when changes aren’t necessary the mind is settled. This is why I don’t share about positive versus negative, because if it’s negative and you have to pull positive in, it’s the same agitation as if you are positive and you push negative away. An agitated mind is a mind that needs things to be a certain way whether it’s positive or negative. This is the agitated lie, but the truth is nothing needs to be different than what it is and the mind will only settle when there isn’t the agitated lie of needing to push something away or pull something in…

Aware of Your Own Presence

All roads that lead to a peaceful life begin and end in the present moment and developing a mindfulness practice will assist in the awakening of being aware of your own presence…

When one lives in a state of mindfulness, this allows the present moment to be experienced, this is the space of your own presence. Being mindful of what’s actually happening as opposed to being pulled around by it is what determines the amount of peace there will be in your life; this peace arises by being aware of the space of your own presence. Life is magical in its essence, but there’s nothing magical about being in the space of presence. All roads that lead to a peaceful life begin and end in the present moment and a mindfulness practice will assist in being aware of your own presence…

Watch a thought and be mindful of it, now watch another, this is a tool as is the breath to be used to keep you in the space of your own presence. One can not be mindful of being in someone’s else’s space or the space of the past or future. You can be mindful that you’re thinking about someone’s space or the past or future, but you can never actually be there. Every watched thought or breath can only be observed in the space that it’s happening. The more one becomes mindful of this, the more focused one becomes of the body being in the present moment (your own space) as opposed to grasping for the story of some other space. Be mindful of this article as it pertains to your own presence and what arises. Just be with it by being mindful. It’s in the space of mindfulness that you will find the peace of your own presence and this is because the only thing that’s there is the presence of your own space…

Thought Awareness

Thoughts will arise, but they don’t have to control you. If there isn’t awareness of this, your thoughts will blindly be attached to which will lead to them being blindly in control…

If there isn’t awareness of your own thoughts, there won’t be anyway of knowing if they’re truly beneficial to you. Without this awareness hold on because you’ll be taken on a roller coaster ride. Not that life does anything directly to anyone, but thoughts arise and they determine what kind of ride you will be on. Awareness of your unchecked thoughts is essential if one is to not be controlled by them. Thoughts are a natural part of life, they will arise, to me there’s no way of controlling the thoughts that arise, but I have found that awareness of them allows for a split second hesitation that can be used to determine whether or not the thought is beneficial; remember attachment to any thought causes suffering, not the thought itself…

I often say the Conditioned Mind is diabolical and unless there’s some awareness of how controlling your thoughts actually are, they will and this has to happen, control you as if you were a dog on a leash. So subtle is this that even if you are doing things that are labeled as loving, if these thoughts aren’t watched they will eventually control you; remember bondage is bondage regardless of what label is applied to the thought. This is why the Conditioned Mind is diabolical because of its subtleness in using whatever it can to remain in control. Thoughts will arise, but they don’t have to control you. If there isn’t awareness of this, your thoughts will blindly be attached to which will unfortunately lead to them being blindly in control…

It's Never Personal

There are many different ways that people handle what arises in life, the key to not being controlled by what arises is to understand life isn’t personal and it doesn’t do anything to you…

As life happens, the way it’s handled depends on how one relates themselves to it. One way and the most common is to make what happens so personal that it’s attached to as if life does it to you. This is very limiting and it creates much suffering because it’s made as if there’s some master plan as to why things happen; this is when the would’ve, should’ve, could’ve mind takes over. That there’s a you who thinks things happen to is at the core of the conditioned way of thinking, but nothing truly happens to you, things do happen, but nothing directly happens to you unless it’s taken personal. I’m not saying ignore what happens, but without making what happens personal, things that happen are allowed to be as they are without creating suffering. This is not the way most people handle life. The conditioned thought is there has to be an emotional tie to what happens, but what’s not understood is this tie causes suffering. This isn’t seen because of making life personal which only exist in the mind.

No one has to suffer through life, but if the herd mentality is blindly followed, there will be suffering. The last few weeks have allowed me to go deeper within to see how my own suffering is created by holding onto a self that’s been programmed to take life personal. If you don’t think this is true, pin point where this self is that is so adamant about taking what happens personal. I will just say this, because of the attachment to self, although what happens happens, it will always seem as it happens to you, but nothing is ever truly personal, not because it’s being ignore, but because there’s no attachment to a self to take it personal.