Beyond Opinions

 

True Reliable Options

Reaching is the issue not the thing reached for. Not everything one thinks is a reliable option truly is. It will take a very settled mind to see if what you’re reaching for is truly a reliable option…

Do what you think is a reliable option for your well being, but it needs to be investigated to see if what you’re doing is truly reliable and not just a story of what you think. Many people play the lottery to become rich so to become rich becomes a so called reliable option. Sex is often used as being a so called reliable option as is the spiritual path. Drugs, alcohol, gambling, and also their counter parts (their programs) are used as a reliable option, but as the results of these options may be different, the prison they keep you in is the same. Working out and healthy eating habits are reliable options, but many attach a story to them and negate their reliability. I know many people are vegans and I have no opinion either way, but no where have I ever read that Jesus or the Buddha used this as a reliable part of their practice. All I’m saying is what I’ve found to be truly reliable needs no story or attachment for certain results.

I can only share my experience and I’ve found reaching for anything in whatever form it takes on is not truly reliable. The reaching is the issue, not the thing being reached for. To me in the space of just being with what arises in the present moment is truly reliable. Not everything you think is reliable truly benefits your life. It will take a very settled mind to see the subtleness of the attachment to things that are deemed reliable. I say if you’re reaching for something regardless of what it is, it’s not a reliable option for your well being. This is because the reaching itself is the issue as it keeps you in a mental prison…

Instinctive Flow

 

A Selfish View

There’s not much life in a selfish view. What happens with a selfish view is the free flowing energy of truth is cut off. A selfish view always causes suffering, truth alleviates it…

A selfish view is what causes one to get locked into only seeing things from the side of suffering. It matters little what that selfish view is, as it’s the rigidness of being in a selfish mode that doesn’t allow free flowing energy. The is what happens when a story is created and it becomes a selfish view of what life is about in any particular moment. The selfishness become deeply ingrained as one becomes emotionally tied into whatever the selfish view is focused on. It’s very difficult to not attach to things that makes up a story that is held onto, but you can have compassion, passion, and genuine love for something without attaching to it and being controlled by a selfish mind.

To me, the selfish view is the normal view of many people and it’s why many suffer unnecessarily. I’ve noticed this occurring in so many lives and I can see the suffering it’s causing. Unfortunately those in the midst of this selfish view cannot see it. Nor can one pull themselves out of it until the selfish view is seen as the cause of suffering. The selfish mind doesn’t allow the openness needed to be free from attachment, and since attachment is the root of suffering, suffering is inevitable. The tighter the grip of something the more one is trapped in a selfish view and the less free flowing energy there is in one’s life. There’s not much life in a selfish view because what happens is the free flowing energy of truth is cut off, The selfish view always causes suffering, truth alleviates suffering…

Velcro Mind

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Conflicted Status

There’s no harmony when selfish energy is running the show. Simply put without harmony we have everyone going in different directions trying to attain a certain selfish status…

Nothing really means all that much in the grand scheme of life when it comes to achieving a certain status in our society. Not that there’s anything wrong with this, but it doesn’t equate to anything except to selfish energy. This energy is what actually makes selfishness what it is; it creates conflict. When selfish energy is embraced, it creates an I am special aura or a look at me persona, but the truth of the matter is, when it’s time to leave this world nothing is taken with you. I’ve learned one very important lesson in my life and that is my life has nothing to do with me. I say this in the sense of what any life is about. Life itself doesn’t really care what occurs, it’s selfish energy that makes it important by the story it creates of “I”. It attaches to “I” and adds all kinds of things that creates a look at me persona. A celebrity status goes to most people’s head, but it doesn’t really mean anything. Just loving and keeping things in their proper perspective is what gets it done for me, with the “it” being a level of quietness that doesn’t need a selfish story to be.

Anything added to life doesn’t really enhance it in any way. Being with life as it is and not needing it to be of a certain status is so much more beneficial as an energy than putting out selfish energy. So much of selfish energy is reinforced by ”I” and it’s why the world is the way it is. Selfishness can’t exist without a certain energy that feeds it. Without awareness of this, just by the design of idolizing, selfish energy is constantly reinforced. I’m right and you are wrong energy is also the kind of energy that’s in place and it makes for many selfish charged situations. There’s no harmony when selfish energy is running the show. Simply put, without harmony we have a conflicted world trying to attain a certain selfish status…

 

Settled Mind Truth

Meditation allows for one to go inward so truth is revealed. A truth that requires a settled mind so it can arise…

When there’s no need for reading, writing, reciting prayers, attending meetings, helping others or anything else for that matter, it allows for the so called mud in the lake (the mind) to settle. The mud will never settle and the water will remain cloudy until there’s stillness that allows the water to stop moving. Most ignorance arises from thinking the mud will settle on its own although the lake is constantly being stirred up.

The Conditioned Mind creates ignorance, this ignorance creates suffering which blocks truth from being seen and keeps one on the Merry-go-round of the Conditioned Mind. Until this is seen the mud in the lake will never settle and one will never be able to get off the Merry-go-round as you remain a slave to the conditioning and ignorance of yourself and others. But if it’s learned to say yes to what is, what stirs the mud (the mind) that holds you captive to your own ignorance will settle…

Being Right

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Light of Life

Conflicts Within

Existence is continuous until one day it’s not. It becomes conflicted within because of the attachment to self. Without this attachment, the beauty of life unfolds as the conflicts within fall away…

The real cause of any issue with life is not with what actually happens, but how we attach a self to it. Life occurs regardless of the self, but what attachment does is it makes it conflicted within by isolating it and making it personal. Life is neutral until it’s attached to, then it becomes an event that’s all about the self. Without self, conflicts within don’t happen, life just occurs. I’m not insinuating a self exist or not, all I’m saying is the attachment to self is at the root of all conflicts within; if you want to be free of the conflicts within, you‘ll have to be free of the attachment to self…

Quietness is Our Teacher

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Created Shackles

Whatever it is that holds you captive becomes your shackle. If you don’t stop making what arises a shackle and make room in your heart for love, you’re the one who will suffer the most…

The choice to hold on to something and make it a shackle is the cause of suffering. There really isn’t a choice in this because of the way the Conditioned Mind controls. Suffering is inevitable when the Conditioned Mind makes everything a shackle. If this is to change, you’ll have to make room in your heart so your shackles are replaced by stillness and love. There’s no way around this, make whatever you want a shackle, but understand when it passes something else will replace it. Today it’s politics, tomorrow it’s the job, the co-worker, traffic, or something else; this will never change until there’s room in your heart for love. If you hold on to a person and loathe them, you’re blocking the space for a loving heart, this is strong language, but it’s true.

Love of the heart can only happen without any conditioning. The Conditioned Mind doesn’t allow most to see this, it prefers to create shackles. I can say I have love for all beings, what I don’t love is the conditioning in place. I understand it and I choose not to create shackles and feed into conditioned nonsense. To hold on to things is to suffer regardless of who or what you’re holding on to because it becomes your shackle. This is truth; you cannot be separate from the energy that is in you. Stop creating shackles and make room in your heart for love. If you don’t you’re the one who will suffer the most by creating shackle after shackle of what you’re holding on to…

AHA Moments

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Everything Changes

Life is based on the inevitable fact that “everything changes” and regardless if this fact is accepted or not, change still happens. Resistance to change is where one’s problem lies…

Everything changes, understanding this one phrase helps one understand one of the most important aspects of life. The more one is resistant to change, the more discontented one will be because of the nature of things. The tighter one holds onto resisting change, the tighter will be the chains that imprison you.

Understand nothing stays the same, ever. Our life is constantly changing, so why resist something that’s going to happen anyway. You can want something to stay as it is, but that will not stop it from changing. You can go to the gym to keep your body a certain way, but eventually your body will change, no matter how hard you work out. There’s nothing wrong with working out hard, just understand one day your body will not be the way it is now. If you can’t accept this, you will have a difficult time. You can substitute the working out with anything. How about losing your hair, or getting older looking, or getting sick, or having a loved one get sick or die with or without warning. This list can go on forever, you get the point.

Change happens all the time, it’s inevitable. Acceptance of it is optional as is the suffering that goes along with it. You will have to make the decision on whether you will resist change or if you will come to an understanding that “everything changes” and there isn’t a damn thing you can do that will stop it from happening; no matter how much you try to resist it. Change is a natural part of life. It’s inevitable it will happen and unless it’s resisted, you can remain free as if the change had never occurred, but it will take an understanding that “everything changes” no matter how much one doesn’t want it to be so…