Need to Reach

The most important thing to understand about the need to reach is, the less attachment there is to “Me” the less there will be a need to reach for something you think is needed for satisfaction…

The need to reach is so powerful because what’s reached for is actually satisfying; this is why reaching is so addicting. The only issue with this is the impermanent nature of being satisfied. Satisfaction simply will not last, it has no staying power so something will always be needed following the attainment of whatever is reached for. Think about this, all the things you thought you needed to reach for throughout your life regardless of what it was, it doesn’t bring the satisfaction now that it brought at that time. Most times, even if the same exact thing is physically repeated, it’s usually not as satisfying as the first experience. I used so many things I thought were needed as my reaching conditioning dictated, but it never lasted; the next reach always arose. This went on all the time, reaching for one thing after another and never staying satisfied.

I’ve come to understand this need to reach as the main reason people become addicted to things. If needing satisfaction wasn’t sought, nothing would be reached for so there would never be an addiction. Unfortunately, the need to reach has its way with people. It’s deeply ingrained in the “Me” subconscious and has been in place since the beginning of human form. I know this need to reach is what controlled me for forty nine years and it was directly associated with “Me”. Without “Me” no one is there to need. Even with this understanding, the need to reach doesn’t just disappear, but it does lessen somewhat. To me, the most important thing to understand about this is, the less attachment there is to “Me” the less there’s a need to reach for something because without “Me” there’s no one who needs the next satisfaction…