Conflicted Expectations

Conflicted expectations are noticed when things aren’t as they are wanted, but even when things are in your favor, the expectant mind still has conflicts because of the way it clings…

Let go and be free or hold on and suffer, those are the choices. Expect things a certain way and when they aren’t in that way the next step in the process is to react to the results of the conflicted expectations. When there’s expectations there’s conflicts and when you attach to those conflicts it’s because of clinging; this is the development of a conflicted mind. The more you cling the more there’s conflicted expectations. Even if your expectations work out the way you think they’re suppose to, there’s still conflict, but it’s not noticed as a problem because the situation is as wanted. The conflicted mind clings to everything that’s labeled and it labels everything so there’s clinging to everything, but it’s not noticed because there’s mostly focus on the things wanted.

Life is one continuous expectation, but it’s only in the disappointing conflicted ones that you think your mind clings; most are unaware of this moment by moment clinging process. When the mind quiets enough to understand this, the labeling process of everything as this or that lessens and so do the conflicted expectations. This results in a mind that is free of conflicted expectations; without these conflicted expectations it’s just about impossible to suffer…