Acceptance Maturity

Being with the way things are goes a long way in providing oneself with the acceptance that allows the maturity of not needing to reach for comfort in whatever form it takes on…

Seeking self satisfying comfort is a sign of immaturity. It’s the I want, what I want, when I want it mind. Self seeking is directly linked to your level of maturity. If you don’t think this is so, what’s the difference in what you use now as opposed to the comfort pacifier that was used as an infant? Only the object has changed, the same immature reaching for comfort is in effect. Stop and see the baby in place who doesn’t like what’s being written here. Your feelings may be hurt, but I don’t care if this article allows you to see the truth needed to act in a mature manner. You will know immaturity is in place by how you have to reach for comfort. This takes on many many forms and unless the mind is very settled, immaturity and reaching for comfort which go hand and hand, remains.

Acting mature will only occur when comfort seeking ceases. Judging is immature, jealousy also is. Greed, hate, and wanting life different (delusion) is immature. Relying on a program is immature, they’re used as a pacifier to provide comfort. Matter of fact anything that’s reached for is a sign of immaturity because it all falls under the guise of a comfort pacifier. Being with the way things are goes a long way in providing the acceptance that allows the maturity of not needing to reach for a comfort pacifier in whatever form it takes on…

No Adding Needed

When you’re busy making plans life happens, and if you’re not careful most of it will be missed because you’ll be busy adding something that you think is needed to enhance it as opposed to living it as it is…

The only thing that makes a person think adding something to life to enhance it is needed is their own conditioning. Until this is realized, this conditioning will keep you searching for something to add. This searching for something to add seems to be a continuous phenomenon for most, this means most are missing what life truly offers. If a person is alive life will be experienced. The question to ask yourself is this, is your life being fully lived or are you under the spell of the Conditioned Mind that makes you think something needs to be added or even taken away for that matter? If this is the default setting of your mind so much of life will be missed because you will constantly need things to be different than what they are. This is a mind agitation that keeps the searching for something to add in place which doesn’t allow any contentment with what’s actually taking place.

Life is never personal, it just continues on regardless of what happens. Humanity has become its own worse enemy and mostly because of always needing to add to life instead being content with what’s there. Add whatever you think you need and except for a few brief moments contentment will be fleeting at best. Sit and visualize having all the riches of the world and being the most intelligent person to have ever lived and see what this really changes in your life. It will only be a matter of time before you will need to add something regardless of what one has or what’s going on. If there isn’t some level of contentment with the way things are, you’ll constantly need life to be different and the search for adding what you think will make it better will make discontentment and adding something the norm…

Consumed in Self

If you seek what you think is needed to awaken you’ll probably remain asleep. All urging comes from the Universe, but this will not be known if you’re consumed in a self that thinks it knows what’s best…

We are a product of the Universe, we are not a product of ourselves. We did not call for our creation, nor do we call for the time when it will end. Existence is a product of the Universe and the energy transformed to awaken is from the Universe. This is why you can’t really do anything to transform yourself, but you can do the necessary practice to allow your heart to open so the Universe can use you. But this is not of your doing, the practice is from the urging of the Universe. You will want to practice because the Universe is calling. The reason some practice and some don’t is because for some the noise in the head is to loud to hear the still small voice within. Even though it may seem the urging is from the outside, it can only be heard from within.

Through the Conditioned Mind we become consumed in a very self-centered energy, but understand this is also an urging from the Universe, it’s just not one that produces love. Energy always is, it’s just a matter of listening to the urging and hearing where it directs you. We seek because the Universe calls us, we see because the veil of a Conditioned Mind is removed and our energy is then guided by what the heart seeks. Spirituality is not magical for a selected few who think they‘re special, it’s available to anyone who makes it a practice to listen to their inner urging. The Universe always calls, but are you hearing the true message or are you consumed in making up your own message to fulfill yourself? It takes much quietness to hear the Universe’s urging, the alternative is to listen and follow yourself. Now that’s scary and it because most urgings are consumed in a self-centered self for your own benefit…

Natural Kindness

Everyone begins life with loving kindness in their heart, but because of the Conditioned Mind it gets pushed so far down that a story of loving kindness has to be made up instead of being aware of it naturally…

Why the Conditioned Mind is such a nemesis to your own well being is because most conditioning is based in self centeredness; this affects every aspect of your life. Multiple this by billions of conditioned people and it’s no wonder the world is as it is. Granted this is my experience, but this is what has been revealed to me as being the block to my own innate loving kindness and without this innate loving kindness for myself there was never any room to for others. This didn’t make loving kindness non existent in my life, but it did make me unaware of it.

Loving kindness isn’t something that can be manufactured, it either is or it isn’t. It doesn’t pick and choose, it can’t, love just loves, unconditionally. The thing with love is most think it’s a wishy washy state of mind, but it’s not really anything, it’s just love. An applied label doesn’t enhance it, only the awareness of it allows its natural state to be. Love affects everything as does the lack of it, when there’s awareness of this the heart opens and one loves unconditionally because that’s how love naturally rolls…

Settled Mind Seeing

Truth is only seen when the mind is settled. The thought of truth is a created distraction and it blocks one from seeing beyond the story of truth conjured up in the head…

If you want to know what truth is, a quiet mind will have to be the base of where life is lived from. Anything else is just a distraction that keeps the mind from settling; thus it keeps you from truth. There is never a story attached to truth. How can there be when the story is but a distraction. Life truly isn’t about anything in particular, the Conditioned Mind will make it about something, with a settled mind this will be seen. A settled mind is the only way it will be seen because it’s the only way the created distractions will not block it. So you see what is seen and if it’s thought to be truth it probably isn’t because only when the mind is settled beyond thought will you see the truth that sets you free…

Made Up Truth

In the present moment made up versions of truth cease to exist because there’s no need to create them. And without a made up truth, there’s no deciphering what‘s actually true…

Your stories aren’t necessarily true, they’re true in the sense that it’s your version of your story, but deciphering if the content of that story is true is difficult. This is so because you‘re the creator of your stories and they’re believed wholeheartedly. This is what directs your energy and how your life is lived. The thing to also investigate is how many stories there are. There’s the parents story, the childhood one, the teen and young adult story. There’s the boy meets girl story, the get married story. The work story, family story, and on and on. There are so many stories and only one you. So which story is true? If you say all of them you should be able to sense why it’s so difficult to see the truth. There’s truth in there somewhere, but that’s probably the only story not written yet. When that one is written all the others will fall away.

So how would a person know which one of their stories were true? My experience has been I know which one is true because it isn’t created. You see, truth arises, it’s not created. It’s basically what’s there in the present moment. This is the value of using the body as an anchor for present moment living. The body doesn’t create stories, only the mind does, so when the body is used to be present no story is needed. This is beautiful in its simplicity. Grasp this and most stories will cease to be made up because the need to create them won’t arise. And without made up stories of versions of truth there’s no need to decipher what’s actually true…

Pertinent Tools

Are the tools you have in place truly pertinent to allow you to love yourself unconditionally and thus love all beings. The key word here is all, not just the one’s deemed pertinent…

For many years I did things that were considered pertinent to my well being, but after forty nine years of this I found myself at such a low point that I wasn’t sure if I was going to rise up. There was no I think I can chants, no positive thinking, no meditation, no loving myself. There was much confusion and despair, and the insanity that my own developed tools brought me to this place. Now I know not many get to this place of total despair so it’s difficult to understand how low I was, but I will say this, I am fortunate beyond words and I will tell you why. When I was twenty eight years old there were ten of us still hanging in a bar, all of us using alcohol as a pertinent tool. Out of those ten individuals eight of them are now dead. What’s tragic about this is the tools that each of them deemed pertinent to live their life were the cause of their deaths. Think about how insane this is and how often this is repeated today; insanity to say the least.

When I look back at what I thought were pertinent tools to live by, I see nothing but this insanity. Although not intentional my own mind caused all my suffering. Now you may not think this applies to you, but every negative thought one ever has comes from within yourself. It may have been put there by some outer influence, but it was attached to by you and you saw it as pertinent to give it energy to manifest. I’m not a big negative/positive person, my experience has been more in line with quietness as the most pertinent tool to live by, but it wasn’t always this way. To me the question to ask yourself if you can muster the courage to do so is are you willing to truly face yourself to see if the tools you have in place are truly pertinent to allow you to love yourself unconditionally and thus love all beings. The key word here is all, not just the one’s that are thought to be pertinent…

Perfection of Love

Imperfections are a part of being human, there’s only perfection in love. When you live from the perfection of love, you’re aligned with the Universe and all that is done touches others…

Regardless of the stories that are made up, most of what is done in life doesn’t really matter; when one dies, the stories go to the grave with them. But there are things that will be left behind and their significance will be determined by the love that comes from one’s heart. This isn’t something that can be turned on and off, true love is natural and always genuine. It comes from the heart and whenever something is done from this love it’s perfect because it changes people; maybe not all people, but that’s because of their conditioning. If something is done out of love and someone has issue with it, the issue isn’t with what was done.

One day all of what has been done in this life will come to pass. What is said and done matters little except for the things done from the perfection of love. Although what one says and does may not always be agreed with, as long as what’s done is from the perfection of love it will be perfect. To be imperfect is a part of being human, but love is Universal so when we live from the perfection of love, we are aligned with the Universe and all that is done is perfect. And in when what is done is from the perfection of love it touches others regardless if it’s agreed with or not…

The Gem Within

A person doesn’t wake up because something from the outside shakes them, it occurs because the gem within is uncovered; everyone has this gem in their possession…

When a person has an inward shift, they wake up from a state of being asleep and unaware of what truth is. When this occurs at first what has happened isn’t truly realized. In my own case I knew something happened because my view of life became different, but I didn’t know what it meant. I did know for the first time in my life I was going to be okay. I likened this shift as though I was broke (which I was spiritually) but I had a gem in my pocket that I wasn’t aware of. I didn’t wake up because something from the outside shook me, I woke up because I uncovered the gem within that I already possessed. I didn’t know the value of this at first, as a matter of fact I didn’t even know I had this gem in my possession. Even when some do become slightly aware of it, it very easily could be mistaken for something else; for me it was mistaken for many many years. As I look back throughout my life, I had an inkling this gem existed, but it was dismissed. Because of this I kept looking for what I already possessed.

Nothing is fulfilling from the outside that the inside doesn’t already have in its possession. But because of the conditioning in place there isn’t awareness of this. Obviously we’re not talking material possessions, I’m strictly talking about the gem of love that we all possess. This is worth more than anything in the world and it‘s also the thing that’s most readily available to everyone. It’s just that the conditioning in place keeps you looking for your gem out there when all along you already have it in your possession…

Abundance of Life

An abundant life is restricted by a mind that’s conditioned to self serve. The mind creates these limits by keeping you under the spell that the self serving mind is needed for abundance…

The self serving mind is conditioned to be this way. It can’t get beyond itself so truth is hidden from its view. This blocks out the ability to see the abundance that life provides so instead of being in the presence of what is, what isn’t, wasn’t, and will never be is the minds defaulted view. Learn to be with what’s actually occurring and the default setting of the mind becomes one of abundance because the blocks to seeing this cease to exist. When this occurs the self serving mind isn’t in control and you’re free to live without self serving restriction; restriction created by your own mind.

A self serving conditioned mind restricts. To restrict is to put a limit on something or to control something. This is what a Conditioned Mind does. Even though it seems like there’s a choice to do what is done, when anything is done that is based to self serve it’s restricted. This is
because no one not even if
the one doing exactly as wanted benefits because not only is one out of alignment with the Universe, one is out of alignment with themselves. When you go beyond this conditioning, you go beyond your own mind created restrictions and you naturally see the abundance of life. To be without restrictions is to be aligned with the Universe and to be aligned with the Universe is to be aligned with the abundance of life…

Impact of Words

Words have a lot of impact on the way you perceive yourself. The words that are chosen can reinforce the lies of the Conditioned Mind if there isn’t awareness of them…

The energy in one’s life would be so much different if the word have was substituted with the word want. Think about it, how we speak has much more influence on our life than most people are aware of. Just try this little exercise and see how different a sentence is when want is substituted for have. I have to get up for work, or I want to get up for work. I have to go food shopping or I want to go food shopping. One more, I have to shovel the snow once it stops or I want to shovel the snow once it stops. The same action is being done, but its meaning is so different when want is substituted for have. The burden of having to do something is lifted when one wants to do something.

My speech is something I’m pretty cognizant of and it’s one of the reason I often say “When you start a sentence with “I“ stop because not much good is going to come out of it. This is one of the reasons I don’t attend 12 Step meetings any longer because at many of them you have to introduce yourself by stating I am this or that. To me this energy of stating I am a __________ keeps people in the energy of the problem, not in the energy of the solution.

Words have a lot of impact on the way one perceives themselves and they will unconsciously reinforce the lies of the Conditioned Mind if there isn’t awareness of what words are used. Energy always is and where it’s directed is what your life becomes. Here’s one more example, I want to help others. This is a lot different than saying I have to help others, although helping others is always a good thing. When you want to help others as opposed to having to do it, it truly comes from a heart of love. Using the most beneficial words takes practice, developing awareness of the controlling energy of your life also takes practice. So watch what is said and how it is said and maybe instead of having to do things, you just may want to do them. Not because your I wants to, but because it’s the loving direction of the energy in place…

Fleeing From Yourself

It’s a great relief to accept yourself as you are because the only real misery is wanting you to be different. When it’s realized you have been fleeing from yourself, there is peace…

When one awakens, the great secrets of the Universe aren’t revealed, although in some ways they are, what really happens when one awakens is you stop fleeing from yourself. That’s the main attribute of waking up from the sleep of unconsciousness. It’s not knowing what life is all about, it’s more so not being concerned with what life is all about. The fleeing, searching, reaching, need to do, ceases and it’s realized what you have been fleeing from is yourself. It’s a great relief to accept yourself as you are because the only real misery is wanting you to be in some other way. When this is seen needing subsides; the need to be right, and also the need for things to be different, especially yourself. This doesn’t mean you don’t move forward to be the change that’s needed in the world, but it’s done so in a way that it doesn’t cause the very suffering that one is trying to change.

When you stop fleeing, you stop chasing. this occurs naturally. I fled from myself for forty nine years and it nearly cost me my physical existence. I didn’t have a mental existence because of how the Conditioned Mind controlled me. Basically this was my awakening, to see that I was always fleeing from myself. It was revealed to me that I could stop fleeing and I was going to be okay. This is a beautiful space to be in. It’s the space where peace passes all understanding. It’s not a magical place for a select few, it’s a place where everyone’s heart dwells, one just has to stop fleeing to experience it. The possibilities when one stops fleeing are endless, there are no blocks here so creativity arises. No one knows what might arise. I can tell you this, when you stop fleeing from yourself life is lived in the peaceful state of accepting yourself as you are, and it’s simply because fleeing is no longer needed…

Impermanence

Life is dynamic, it’s made into a burden because of thinking it’s always going to be the way that it is. This makes life delusional because what’s happening is impermanent…

Making something that’s occurring in the moment as if it’s always going to be this way is why life is made into gets a burden. But they’re not truly burdens, they take on the energy of form as if what’s occurring right now is always going to be this way. Once the energy of it’s always going to be this way is seen, the tool of impermanence can be applied. When you’re struggling with something, the greatest understanding you can have is that it’s your own mind that creates every obstacle to your inner peace. If impermanence isn’t understood, inner peace will never be had.

All things are impermanent even if they’re made permanent by your mind. This goes for everything, including life itself so no matter what it is, one day it will not be so, here is one of my favorite examples of this. If you visit a doctor because you’re not feeling well and are told you have a year to live, do you want to die 365 times or once? A mind that is settled can see the truth of this and hence the freedom and value of only dying once. Or not and die everyday until the time comes when conditions that support living in this form are no longer met. We are only visitors here regardless of what happens in life. How tight you hold onto something is a created burden because everything is temporary and impermanent…

Weighted Opinions

Weighted opinions keeps you attached to a world where there's very little freedom because there's no room for truth. If you want freedom the weight of opinions will need to be let go of...

The more opinions there are about something, the more you’re weighed down by that opinion. It’s difficult to experience the openness of something if you’ve already decided how it is. To remain open one needs to be opinion free. This is essential if there is be alignment with the Universe and be free from the things that weigh you down. The weight of the things that hold you are your opinions and they need to be let go of if there is to be freedom; this hold is very subtle. Even the opinion on whether you like this post or not is a weight and a weight will keep you stuck in the same place. This post can resonate with you without an opinion, but opinions seem to make the world go round. That doesn't mean it’s a good thing, but that's just my opinion, lol.

I lived an existence that was very opinionated for most of my life and this caused much conflict with people who weren't of the same opinion; wars are started over mere differences of opinions. If you're really honest with yourself you'll see that every disagreement you ever had with someone was caused by a difference of an opinion about something. I'm not saying you shouldn't stand up for what is known to be right, but truly knowing about something or having an opinion about it is totally different.

There's a place of no opinion, but if it's not understood you’ll never lose the weight of opinions and will remain stuck in an existence that's very opinionated. When this is the place lived from there's very little freedom. When you can just be with life as it unfolds and not label it as this or that, you'll be on the verge of truly experiencing a life, opinionated weight free. And without a weight grabbing hold of everything and forming an opinion, there will be freedom to be with life as it is, without the need of an opinion that just weighs you down…

Cutting Your Strings

Quietness is what happens when the tools that allow quietness are used. Once the strings of noise are cut, quietness naturally arises because it’s what’s there...

If you think you have strings that need to be cut there are tools that have been revealed to me to assist in doing this. I know I don't have the only tools and by the way they actually aren't mine. I borrow them from people who came before me, but I share them in my articles with the compassion from my heart. So if you do have strings know this, they can be cut. This is my aspiration, nothing more. It’s not something that I strive to do, because striving to be or do something leads to suffering. 

Quietness is what the tools allow once the strings are cut. Noise is suffering. I sit a lot in quietness and this sharpens my tools more and more, but this also causes heartache when it’s observed that people suffer needlessly. What I know is this; I can only change myself, but I can share the tools I use that allow me to change. Some of the tools I use are sitting, sensation of touch, guided meditations, bowl mediations, the breath, walking, etc, basically I use whatever allows present moment awareness. Whether you want to use them or not is up to you, but if you don't use mine find your own. Please make sure the tools that you use makes your behavior a benefit to all beings. And keep sharpening your tools so you can keep on expanding and bring more love into a world that can definitely use it…