Instilled Programming

As we grow up, the instilled programming in place allows for our development to be as it is. Simply put, if the instilled programming was based in loved, our development would be based in love…

As I look back, I see how much of the instilled programming was just a part of what was there growing up. Not particularly right or wrong especially because there wasn’t much that could have been done differently. It’s very difficult to act in a loving manner if that’s not the instilled programming in place as one grows up. Some things are learned naturally, but everything takes some kind of practice to become a habit. If you’re learning how to catch a baseball, at first it’s probably awkward with no knowledge as to the best way to do it, but the more you do it, the more natural it becomes. This is a good thing if what you’re learning is based in love, but part of the problem is when what’s instilled isn’t based in love; unfortunately this too becomes natural, this is why it’s so hard to change. I knew what was beneficial (loving) and what wasn’t growing up, but doing what was loving was not what was instilled so being selfish was natural to me; there wasn’t anybody who could tell me different because that’s all I knew.

To say the least, this non loving instilled programming caused much suffering because there wasn’t any room for much else. This is the merry go round most people are unknowingly on and it’s a direct result of why humanity is the way it is. If we all grew up with our instilled programming based in love humanity would be much different, it’s that simple. I know this because sixteen years ago I began developing a different base (one of love); lo and behold things began changing. It doesn’t mean it’s always this way, but just as it is with learning to catch a baseball, it takes practice. For me, this is done so the loving behavior becomes as natural as my earlier instilled programming of being selfish was…