Refusing "I"

Needing to reach for an object happens because “I” makes this so. Only refusing to cling to “I” will there be results of freedom and this is because it’s the refusing that provides the letting go…

When you’re caught clinging to an object of desire and it takes hold of all your attention, the only way to break free of this is to have awareness you’re caught. Once this occurs refusing the object is the only way the hold will be broken. The object doesn’t matter in the sense in can be anything from a person, place, or thing, including yourself, but what does matter is seeing whatever it is that’s making you cling. There are so many different objects used that you will have to decipher for yourself what holds you. The clinging is different only because of the object used, but the refusing is the same because not reaching is not reaching. Many people stop smoking only to cling to using food and eventually go back to using cigarettes. This is just one example, substitution is rampant in our society and this keeps one locked into the clinging and remaining on the merry go round of using objects.

Refusing whatever it is you desire is where you will experience true freedom. Why this is difficult for most people to truly see is because “I” isn’t understood as the core of the clinging and this is why substitutions are so prevalent. If the clinging results in using drugs or alcohol as its object, when a program is used to stop using them, unless one refuses “I” drugs and alcohol will most likely be used again. Why this occurs is because the program is clung to and although you may have stopped using drugs and alcohol, the program is used as a substitute; substituting one object for another doesn’t provide freedom. Refusing “I” will result in freedom and that’s because it’s the refusing that provides it. This is why the object doesn’t matter because it’s “I” that makes you cling and it’s only in refusing “I” that you will be free…